We all are guilty. Guilty of distractions that take our attention. Guilty of projects that get in the way of enjoying where we are at the moment. Guilty of messing up our priorities. Guilty of occupying our mental space with stuff. I am so guilty of all of this…so, I took the summer off.
The kids and I head on a cross country road trip every year. Yes, I drive. No, we don’t kill each other (although sometimes it feels like we might) and no, I am not crazy.
Road trips rock. We’ve done it 16 times now.
But, here’s the thing. Every summer, I have an additional project that takes mental space for me and if I try to do everything else I was doing, it sometimes backfires. There are periods throughout the year where I might resemble a character made up of a mix of Hades from Hurcules and Anger from Inside Out. Not pretty.
Now, there was a time pre-kids and pre-mid 30’s where everything was possible. I was working a full time job, sleeping 4 hours a night, going to college full time and still functioning as a real-life human being.
I can’t do everything like I once could. Nor, do I want to. Nor, should I.
Recently, I had to let go of Expressing Motherhood. It’s a project that I started with a dear friend. It was creative, it was fun, we traveled, we shared stories of motherhood…I enjoyed it. But, then my mental space was taken up by having more children, my documentary, my mother dying, navigating marriage starting a non-profit and becoming a race director for a really great charity event.
Oh, and then school starts for the kids and homework and laundry and feeding everyone and helping in the house to manage bills…and somewhere in the middle of all of that, trying to be a wife and loving my husband the way he needs to be loved.
Forgetting about myself.
I forget about myself. That’s when I lose sleep, I become angry, I gain weight and get unmotivated.
Forgetting about yourself is not an option. Taking care of my health became the focus in 2015 for me. I vowed to eat better, cook better, work out more, do the things that make me happy, lose the extra weight, not for vanity reasons, but to be healthy and to constantly check my priorities. I vowed to put my family first.
So, I started Whole30 in February (life changing, by the way), I decided to take a break from constant posting online for the summer and we made the decision to homeschool.
There, I said it. Starting next week, we’re a homeschooling family.
I was serious about taking care of myself and making sure my priorities are in order. For me, this is how it looks for this coming year. I took the summer off of being online and focused on being in the moment with my family, I am eating healthy, we hosted a really great Rose Run and now I’m preparing to homeschool and am hosting another great charity event here in LA in October.
Life is way too short for me to not focus on priorities, count my blessings and take care of myself.
I hope you’re doing that too…however it looks for you.